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The longest relationship you will ever have is the one with your siblings. Friends come and friends go. Family members pass on. You may even suffer the loss of one or both of your parents. Usually, though, when you look around in your life you will find a brother or a sister. In good times and bad times, brothers and sisters are there whether you want them to be or not.
But what is your relationship with your brother and sister? Are you close? Do you talk often? Growing up, you share unique experiences with your sibling. Treasure these experiences, because no one really knows you as your sibling does.
How may siblings do you have? Do you consider siblings to be a blessing or a curse in life? It depends on your individual family. In families where the parents practice fairness among the children, you may feel close to your sister. In other families where it is obvious to everyone who the favorite child is, you may not feel close to your brother, especially if you were not the favorite.
Birth order plays a major role in sibling relationships. Recent studies indicate that the first child is often the quietest and most dependable. More responsibility is placed on the first child. Firstborn children have a hard road to travel. Their parents were new at parenting, which often meant that they were strict and expected a lot. Parents are more nervous with their firstborn than any of the other children. Firstborn children are usually more successful in life because of their disciplined upbringing.
Second-born children are entirely different. For one thing, their parents have some experience in raising a child, which makes them more relaxed. Also, the second-born has an older sibling to model after.
Second-born children are very creative. Because their parents have been more at ease with them, they know no limits to their imagination. Determination to be what they want when they want is the hallmark of second-borns. These kids are happy-go-lucky. You will never find them with a stomach ulcer like the firstborn. Second- born children don't give a flip what anyone thinks.
Third-born children have the hardest shoes to fill. By the time they come along the parents are older. They know more about handling children, but they are too tired to always enforce the family rules. Third-born children are often the babies of the family. They get their way more often, but life is harder for them for that reason. The world doesn't care what order you were born in. Your family does.
Four major problems among you and your siblings are;
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