Warning Signs Of Stepchild Need Help

Feelings of constant anger

Of course you may feel anger in the initial adjustment period in your new situation, but why do you continue to feel anger? You may be angry at your parent for leaving you, or angry at the stepparent for taking away your special relationship with your natural parent. You may feel like part of a package deal that ca1ne with your parent’s re- marriage. If after a full year of your parent's remarriage you still have hostile feelings, you should seek family counseling.

Love and loyalty for your natural parents

Love may not happen instantly or even with effort between stepparent and stepchildren. You feel love and loyalty for your absent parent. Any cooperation with a stepparent may make you feel that you are showing less love for your natural parent.

Guilt

Some teens believe they were the real cause ofthe divorce and family breakup and feel guilty. Or you may feel guilty for not being able to love the stepparent.

Loss and mourning

Feelings of loss and mourning are expected at the breakup of a family from divorce or death. There may be feelings of loss of the original family. If your stepparent treats you better than your natural parent, it can bring loss of another kind-loss of what could have been between you and that parent in the future.

Fear

After you have experienced the loss of a parent through death or divorce, you have constant fears that it could happen again. Stepparents and stepchildren fear that the new parent will not be as good at it as the natural one.

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