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Social researchers have come up with the Transactional Model, a widely recognized model for coping stress. This model organizes two broad categories for you to cope with stress. One is problem management; and second is emotional regulation.
Problem management addresses what you actually do to deal or reduce the stress. While emotional regulation refers to how you alter the way your thinking or feeling about stress. In other words, this model looks at both ways on how you can act and think to reduce stress.
Problem focused management seeking more information about a particular stressor so that you feel more educated and in control, as well as taking active steps to reduce the stress. For example, if you are under great stress because your boss at work is driving you crazy all the time, your problem-solving strategy might be actively engage in a job search.
Emotional management include expressing your feelings, look at the stressful situation in a different way, and seeking social support from friends, family, or professionals. For the same situation with the difficult boss, you might discuss your feeling with your family or friends, who may be able to help you to see your boss stress, that he might dealing with other work or home related issues that are spilling over his stress to you. This may help you not to take your boss's short temper personally.
There may be no way to actually get rid of yourself from stress. But, the way you perceive the stress and your ability to have some control over its effects, can determine whether your stress will become something you can manage, or something that will manage you.
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